Polyamory does not fix the pre-existing dilemmas in your monogamous relationships. Things such as bad interaction, selfishness, and secrets all carry into polyamorous relationships if perhaps not addressed.
We was once exactly exactly just what some would call a serial monogamist. Just id find my way into another as I would leave one relationship. From twelfth grade into my very early twenties i did sont think you might have a real relationship with increased than someone during the same time. We kept engaging in monogamous relationships during that I would fall in love, produce a crush, or feel myself interested in other individuals. Even while my feelings for the individual I happened to be in a relationship with wouldnt alter. We nevertheless adored and cared for them. The most effective i really could do ended up being attempt to ignore any emotions I’d developed for the next individual, or sometimes I would personally just cheat, or split up using the individual I happened to be with at that time. I happened to be convinced We couldnt love one or more individual at a right time, so somebody had to go.
I wound up harming a complete great deal of men and women due to my failure to understand that monogamy wasn’t for me personally. There have been times where i possibly couldnt ignore emotions I experienced developed during a monogamous relationship. This will cause both emotional and physical cheating: i might care deeply for three individuals at the same time and just maintain a supposedly monogamous relationship with one of those.